I Am Your Guide
Welcome! This blog was specifically created for young men in need of dating and general advice regarding female friends, girlfriends, sisters, moms, etc. One thing you must always remember is there is no such thing as a stupid question. I know we all heard this back in elementary school, but it's true! Chances are, the same problems and dilemmas you are having with a particular lady-friend are also occurring with someone else who, like yourself, just can't understand why she does what she does, or says what she says. We are here to help! Feel free to send the staff an anonymous email or drop your story in my contact box below regarding your dilemma and we will be sure to answer any questions followed by helpful advice via blog (See Hands On Advice).
Understand what
SHE WANTS.
What's Your
Dilemma?
Don't Demand.
​COMPROMISE.
Compromise is key! I cannot stress this enough. This applies more to people in or trying to get into serious relationships. Now let's be honest, you and your woman of interest are not going to agree on every single thing. Nor will the two of you have identical interests. Just like a man's inability to fully understand women, THIS IS OK! (Personally, I think this makes any relationship more interesting anyway.)
Don't knock it 'till you try it! As a man, you need to be willing to open yourself up to new things. Now I'm not asking you to do things that are completely against any of your personal beliefs because she said so. But, don't be afriad to accompany your woman of interest in her favorite hobbies or activities, even if it's something outside of your comfort zone. Also, don't be afraid to get her involved in your interests as well. You never know, she may end up loving paint-balling or basketball as much as you do!
Broadening your horizons for her will make her respect you A LOT more. This will cause a really big lightbulb in her head to turn on. "Hmmmmm maybe this guy really is interested in me".
ACT
ON IT!
This is the last and most important step of attracting a female. One thing men must understand is, WE ARE JUDGING YOU! We pay attention to how you dress, speak, body language, and most importantly, how you interact with other females when (you think) we aren't looking. One wrong move in this stage can ruin (almost) everything.
Psssst - See Do's & Don'ts!
IS SHE
FOR ME?
You may be good enough for her, but is she good enough for you? A wise person once told me "Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you need to be with them." This is true. It is human nature for us, both male and female, to have a tendency to gravitate towards what we don't need. Fellas, it is very important that you read her body language like the New York Times. Get in there! Yes, you may really like her and do everything in the world to make her like you. But in all honesty, if we don't like you, we don't like you (And there is nothing you can do about that).
Don't waste your time giving her the world when you are never going to get anything in return. It's not worth your time to be giving and getting nothing in return. It may not have anything to do with you at all. But you must respect what we call "the friend-zone."
There is nothing wrong with being good friends first. I strongly encourage co-ed friendships, since women see things men don't, and visa versa. Don't be bitter and just say "Ah forget it" because she doesn't like you in that way. You may be missing out on one of the best friends you've ever had!
One of the most common problems in relationships is the lack of communication. Now, the very first step in making your relationship/friendship work is having a general understanding of where the other person is coming from. Let's face it. Men are never going to understand women completely (and visa versa) and THAT'S OK! However, it is important to understand the basics of your lady's needs and wants. I'm not asking you to become a woman whisperer. At least have an idea of where she's coming from. Easy example: If she hates flowers, DON'T BUY HER FLOWERS. You'll be very surprised to find that most women aren't expecting much at all.
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